When we’ve been wronged by another person and we’re struggling with the resulting pain, forgiveness may be the last thing on our minds. What we want is justice and it is often demanded in the form of retaliation because we want the person who hurt us to suffer, as well. Getting even, however, does not balance the scales. Instead it may lead to an escalating cycle of more fighting and frustration, which increases exactly what we are trying to push away… unrelenting PAIN.